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,Volume 7- Book 67 Wedlock, Marriage (Nikaah)
List Of Hadith
Chapter: To borrow the clothes, etc. for the bride
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5164
Narrated Aisha:
She borrowed a necklace from Asma’ and then it got lost. So Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) sent some people from his companions in search of it. In the meantime, the stated time for the prayer became due and they offered their prayer without ablution. When they came to the Prophet (peace be upon him), they complained about it to him, so the verse regarding Tayammum was revealed. Usaid bin Hudair said, “O Aisha! May Allah bless you with a good reward, for by Allah, never did a difficulty happen in connection with you, but Allah made an escape from it for you, and brought Allah’s blessings for the Muslims.”
Chapter: What a man should say on having sexual intercourse with his wife
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5165
Narrated Ibn Abbas:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “If anyone of you, when having sexual intercourse with his wife, says: Bismillah, Allahumma jannibni ash-Shaitan wa jannibish-Shaitan ma razaqtana, and if it is destined that they should have a child, then Satan will never be able to harm him.”
Chapter: The Walima (wedding banquet) is obligatory
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5166
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
I was ten years old when Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) arrived at Medina. My mother and aunts used to urge me to serve the Prophet (peace be upon him) regularly, and I served him for ten years. When the Prophet (peace be upon him) died, I was twenty years old, and I knew about the order of Al-Hijab (veiling of ladies) more than any other person when it was revealed. It was revealed for the first time when Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) had consummated his marriage with Zainab bint Jahsh.
When the day dawned, the Prophet (peace be upon him) was a bridegroom and he invited the people to a banquet, so they came, ate, and then all left except a few who remained with the Prophet (peace be upon him) for a long time. The Prophet (peace be upon him) got up and went out, and I too went out with him so that those people might leave too. The Prophet (peace be upon him) proceeded and so did I, till he came to the threshold of Aisha’s dwelling place. Then thinking that these people had left by then, he returned, and so did I along with him till he entered upon Zainab, and behold, they were still sitting and had not gone.
So the Prophet (peace be upon him) again went away and I went away along with him. When we reached the threshold of Aisha’s dwelling place, he thought that they had left, and so he returned and I too returned along with him and found those people had left. Then the Prophet (peace be upon him) drew a curtain between me and him, and the verses of Al-Hijab were revealed.
Chapter: Al-Walima is to be given even with one sheep
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5167
Narrated Anas:
When Abdur-Rahman bin Auf married an Ansari woman, the Prophet (peace be upon him) asked him, “How much Mahr did you give her?” Abdur-Rahman said, “Gold equal to the weight of a date stone.” Anas added: When they arrived at Medina, the emigrants stayed at the Ansar’s houses. Abdur-Rahman bin Auf stayed at Sa’d bin Ar-Rabi’s house. Sa’d said to Abdur-Rahman, “I will divide and share my property with you and will give one of my two wives to you.” Abdur-Rahman said, “May Allah bless you, your wives, and property. I am not in need of that; but kindly show me the way to the market.”
So Abdur-Rahman went to the market and traded there, gaining a profit of some dried yogurt and butter, and married an Ansari woman. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said to him, “Give a banquet, even if with one sheep.”
Chapter: The Prophet’s Walima for Zainab with one sheep
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5168
Narrated Anas:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) did not give a better wedding banquet on the occasion of marrying any of his wives than the one he gave on marrying Zainab, and that banquet consisted of one sheep.
Chapter: The Walima for Safiyya and her Mahr being her manumission
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5169
Narrated Anas:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) manumitted Safiyya and then married her, and her Mahr was her manumission. He gave a wedding banquet with Hais (a sweet dish made from butter, cheese, and dates).
Chapter: Invitation to the wedding banquet
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5170
Narrated Anas:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) consummated his marriage with a woman (Zainab), so he sent me to invite men to the meal.
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5171
Chapter: A bigger Walima on marrying some wives than the other wives
Narrated Thabit:
The marriage of Zainab bint Jahsh was mentioned in the presence of Anas, and he said, “I did not see the Prophet (peace be upon him) giving a better banquet on marrying any of his wives than the one he gave on marrying Zainab. He gave a banquet with one sheep.”
Chapter: Walima of less than one sheep
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5172
Narrated Safiyya bint Shaiba:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) gave a banquet with two Mudds of barley on marrying some of his wives. (1 Mudd = 1 ¾ kilograms).
Chapter: To accept the invitation to a Walima
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5173
Narrated Abdullah bin Umar:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “If anyone of you is invited to a wedding banquet, he must go for it (accept the invitation).”
Chapter: To accept invitations and visit the sick
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5174
Narrated Abu Musa:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Set the captives free, accept the invitation (to a wedding banquet), and visit the patients.”
Chapter: Accepting invitations and avoiding forbidden luxuries
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5175
Narrated Al-Bara’ bin Azib:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) ordered us to do seven things and forbade us from seven. He ordered us to visit the patients, to follow the funeral procession, to reply to the sneezer (by saying, ‘May Allah bestow His mercy upon you’), to help others fulfill their oaths, to help the oppressed, to greet those we meet, and to accept invitations.
He forbade us to wear golden rings, to use silver utensils, to use Maiyathir (silk cushions placed under the rider on the saddle), Qasiyya (linen clothes containing silk), Istibraq (thick silk), and Dibaj (fine silk).
Chapter: The host serving his guests
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5176
Narrated Sahl bin Sa’d:
Abu Usaid As-Sa’di invited Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) to his wedding party, and his wife, who was the bride, served them on that day. Do you know what drink she gave Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)? She had soaked some dates for him in water overnight, and when he had finished his meal she gave him that drink of soaked dates.
Chapter: If somebody refuses an invitation
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5177
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The worst food is that of a wedding banquet to which only the rich are invited while the poor are not invited. And he who refuses an invitation (to a banquet) disobeys Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him).
Chapter: Whoever accepted the invitation to a meal of trotters
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5178
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “If I am invited to a meal of trotters I will accept it; and if I am given a trotter as a present I will accept it.”
Chapter: To accept the invitation to a party
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5179
Narrated Nafi:
Abdullah bin Umar said, “Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, ‘Accept the marriage invitation if you are invited to it.’ ” Ibn Umar used to accept the invitation whether to a wedding banquet or to any other party, even when he was fasting.
Chapter: The attendance of women and children at a wedding party
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5180
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
Once the Prophet (peace be upon him) saw some women and children coming from a wedding party. He got up energetically and happily and said, “By Allah! You (i.e., the Ansar) are the most beloved of all people to me.”
Chapter: Should a person return if he sees something objectionable in the party?
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5181
Narrated Aisha:
The wife of the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “I bought a cushion having on it pictures (of animals). When Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) saw it, he stood at the door and did not enter. I noticed the sign of disapproval on his face and said, ‘O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! I repent to Allah and His Messenger. What sin have I committed?’ Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, ‘What is this cushion?’ I said, ‘I have bought it for you so that you may sit on it and recline on it.’ Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, ‘The makers of these pictures will be punished on the Day of Resurrection, and it will be said to them, “Give life to what you have created.” The Angels of mercy do not enter a house in which there are pictures (of animals).'”
Chapter: The serving of the bride herself for the men at her marriage party
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5182
Narrated Sahl:
When Abu Usaid As-Sa’idi got married, he invited the Prophet (peace be upon him) and his companions. None prepared the food for them and brought it to them except his wife. She soaked some dates in water in a stone pot overnight, and when the Prophet (peace be upon him) had finished his food, she provided him with that drink of soaked dates.
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5183
Chapter: An-Naqi and other non-intoxicant drinks at a wedding party
Narrated Sahl bin Sa’d:
Abu Usaid As-Sa’idi invited the Prophet (peace be upon him) to his wedding party, and his wife served him on that day while she was the bride. She said (or Sahl said), “Do you know what she soaked for Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)? She soaked some dates for him in a drinking bowl overnight.”
Chapter: To be polite and kind to the women
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5184
Narrated Abu Huraira:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “The woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break. So if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some crookedness.”
Chapter: The exhortation of taking care of the women
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5185 & 5186
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt his neighbor. And I advise you to take care of the women, for they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will remain crooked. So I urge you to take care of the women.”
Chapter: Talking freely with one’s wife after the Prophet’s death
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5187
Narrated Ibn Umar:
During the lifetime of the Prophet (peace be upon him) we used to avoid chatting leisurely and freely with our wives lest some Divine inspiration might be revealed concerning us. But when the Prophet (peace be upon him) had died, we started chatting leisurely and freely with them.
Chapter: “Ward off from yourself and your families a Fire whose fuel is men and stones…”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5188
Narrated Abdullah bin Umar:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Everyone of you is a guardian and everyone of you is responsible for his wards. A ruler is a guardian and is responsible for his subjects; a man is a guardian of his family and responsible for them; a wife is a guardian of her husband’s house and she is responsible for it; a slave is a guardian of his master’s property and is responsible for that. Beware! All of you are guardians and all of you are responsible for your wards.”
Chapter: To treat the family in a polite and kind manner
Sahih al-Bukhari 5189
Narrated Aisha:
Eleven women sat together and agreed not to conceal anything about their husbands. The first said, “My husband is like the meat of a weak camel placed on the top of a mountain, which is neither easy to climb nor fat enough to be worth the effort.” The second said, “I shall not talk about my husband, for I fear I may not finish describing his faults.” The third said, “My husband, the too-tall! If I describe him, he will divorce me, and if I keep silent, he will keep me hanging.” The fourth said, “My husband is like the pleasant night of Tihama: neither hot nor cold; I am neither afraid of him nor dissatisfied with him.” The fifth said, “My husband, when entering, is like a leopard (sleeps much), and when going out, is like a lion (boasts much). He does not inquire about what goes on in the house.” The sixth said, “If my husband eats, he finishes everything; if he drinks, he leaves nothing; if he sleeps, he wraps himself in our covers; and he does not touch me to ask how I am.” The seventh said, “My husband is foolish and full of defects. He may hurt you in the head or the body—or both.” The eighth said, “My husband is gentle to the touch like a rabbit and smells like a Zarnab (a good-smelling herb).” The ninth said, “My husband is a tall, generous man, with a long sword strap. His ashes are abundant (meaning he is generous to guests) and his home is near the people.” The tenth said, “My husband is Malik, and what is Malik? Malik is greater than all I could describe. Most of his camels stay at home, ready for guests, and only a few are taken to graze. When they hear the tambourine, they know they will be slaughtered for guests.”
The eleventh said, “My husband is Abu Zar. What is Abu Zar? He has adorned me with jewelry until my ears are heavy, and my arms have grown plump. He found me among poor shepherds and brought me to a respected family with horses and camels. Whatever I say, he never rebukes me. When I sleep, I sleep until morning; when I drink, I drink to my fill. The mother of Abu Zar—how generous was she! Her house was spacious and her provisions abundant. The son of Abu Zar—his bed was narrow, and the arm of a young goat sufficed him. The daughter of Abu Zar—obedient to her parents, her figure aroused jealousy. The slave girl of Abu Zar—she kept our secrets and maintained our home well.”
She added, “One day, Abu Zar went out and saw a woman with two sons like two leopards playing at her breast, so he divorced me and married her. After that, I married a noble man who gave me many animals and said, ‘Eat, O Um Zar, and give to your relatives.’ Yet, all he gave me could not fill the smallest utensil of Abu Zar’s.”
Aisha then said: Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said to me, “I am to you as Abu Zar was to his wife Um Zar.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5190
Narrated Urwa:
Aisha said, “While the Ethiopians were playing with their small spears, Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) screened me behind him and I watched them. I kept watching until I became tired and left on my own.” Aisha added, “So you may estimate how young a girl may be and still enjoy amusement.”
Chapter: Advice to a daughter regarding her husband
Sahih al-Bukhari 5191
Narrated Ibn Abbas:
I had long wished to ask Umar bin Al-Khattab about the two ladies from among the wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him) regarding whom Allah said: “If you two turn in repentance to Allah, your hearts are indeed so inclined (to oppose what the Prophet likes).” When Umar performed Hajj and I did the same, I accompanied him. On the way, he went aside to relieve himself, and I followed him carrying a tumbler of water. When he finished, I poured water over his hands and he performed ablution. I then said, “O Chief of the Believers! Who were the two wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him) about whom Allah said this verse?” He said, “How strange of you, Ibn Abbas! They were Aisha and Hafsa.”
Umar continued: “I and an Ansari neighbor of mine from Bani Umaiyya bin Zaid used to visit the Prophet (peace be upon him) alternately—one day he would go, and the next I would. When I went, I would bring him the news of what happened that day, and when he went, he would do the same. We, the people of Quraish, used to have control over our wives, but when we came to live among the Ansar, we found their women dominating their husbands, so our women began learning their ways. I shouted at my wife, and she retorted. I disapproved of her answering back. She said, ‘Why are you surprised? The wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him) also answer him back, and some may even stay away from him the whole day.’ This alarmed me, so I went to Hafsa and said, ‘Does anyone of you make the Prophet (peace be upon him) angry until night?’ She said, ‘Yes.’ I said, ‘You are ruined! Do you not fear that Allah may get angry for the anger of His Messenger (peace be upon him), and thus you would be destroyed? Don’t ask him for more, don’t reply to him, and don’t stay away from him. Ask me for what you need, and do not be deceived by your neighbor (Aisha), for she is more beautiful and beloved to the Prophet (peace be upon him) than you.’”
Umar added: “At that time, people were spreading the rumor that the tribe of Ghassan was preparing to attack us. My Ansari neighbor returned one night, knocked violently at my door, and said, ‘A great thing has happened!’ I asked, ‘Have the Ghassan come?’ He said, ‘No, but something greater—the Prophet (peace be upon him) has divorced his wives!’ I exclaimed, ‘Hafsa is ruined!’ I thought this would happen. I dressed quickly, offered the morning prayer, and went to the Prophet (peace be upon him), who had withdrawn to an upper room. Hafsa was weeping. I asked, ‘Did the Prophet (peace be upon him) divorce you?’ She said, ‘I don’t know; he is alone in the room.’ I went to the pulpit, sat with people weeping there, but could not endure it. So I went to the Prophet (peace be upon him)’s servant and asked for permission to enter. He returned saying, ‘I mentioned you to him, but he kept silent.’ I went back twice more, and the third time, the servant came and said, ‘He has given you permission.’
I entered and saw the Prophet (peace be upon him) lying on a mat made of palm leaves, which had left marks on his side. There was only a leather pillow stuffed with fibers. I said, ‘O Allah’s Messenger! Have you divorced your wives?’ He said, ‘No.’ I said, ‘Allahu Akbar!’ Then I said, ‘O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him), we used to control our women, but when we came to Medina, we found the men dominated by their wives.’ The Prophet (peace be upon him) smiled. I added, ‘I went to Hafsa and told her not to imitate Aisha, for she is more beautiful and beloved to you than you.’ He smiled again. Then I looked around and saw nothing in his house except three animal hides. I said, ‘O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him), ask Allah to make your followers prosperous, for the Persians and Romans live in comfort despite their disbelief.’ The Prophet (peace be upon him) sat up and said, ‘Are you still of that opinion, O son of Al-Khattab? Those people have received their rewards in this world.’ I said, ‘O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him), ask Allah to forgive me.’”
Umar added: “The Prophet (peace be upon him) kept away from his wives for twenty-nine days because of the story Hafsa had disclosed to Aisha. He had said, ‘I will not enter upon them for a month,’ due to his anger, but after twenty-nine days, he first entered upon Aisha. She said, ‘O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him), you swore not to enter for a month, yet only twenty-nine days have passed.’ He replied, ‘The month is twenty-nine days.’ Then Allah revealed the verses giving the wives the choice, and Aisha chose him. All the others made the same choice.”
Chapter: A woman should not fast except with her husband’s permission
Sahih al-Bukhari 5192
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A woman should not fast (optional fasts) except with her husband’s permission if he is present (at home).”
Chapter: If a woman deserts her husband’s bed
Sahih al-Bukhari 5193
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “If a man invites his wife to sleep with him and she refuses, the angels send curses on her until morning.”
Chapter: If a woman spends the night away from her husband
Sahih al-Bukhari 5194
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “If a woman spends the night deserting her husband’s bed, the angels send curses on her until she returns to him.”
Chapter: A woman should not allow anyone to enter the house except with her husband’s consent
Sahih al-Bukhari 5195
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “It is not lawful for a lady to fast optional fasts without the permission of her husband when he is at home, and she should not allow anyone to enter his house except with his permission. If she spends from his wealth on charitable purposes without being ordered by him, he will receive half of the reward.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5196
Narrated Usama:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “I stood at the gate of Paradise and saw that the majority of the people who entered it were the poor, while the wealthy were stopped at the gate for their accounts. But the companions of the Fire were ordered to be taken to the Fire. Then I stood at the gate of the Fire and saw that the majority of those who entered it were women.”
Chapter: To be unthankful to the husband
Sahih al-Bukhari 5197
Narrated Abdullah bin Abbas:
During the lifetime of the Prophet (peace be upon him), the sun eclipsed. The Prophet (peace be upon him) offered the eclipse prayer, and so did the people along with him. He performed a long standing posture during which Surat al-Baqara could have been recited, then a prolonged bowing, then raised his head and stood again for a long time, though slightly shorter than the first. He again bowed for a long time, but shorter than the first, then stood and prostrated. After the sun cleared, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “The sun and the moon are two signs among the signs of Allah. They do not eclipse because of the death or birth of anyone. So when you see the eclipse, remember Allah.”
The people said, “O Messenger of Allah, we saw you reaching for something and then stepping back.” He said, “I saw Paradise, and I stretched my hand to pluck a bunch of grapes. If I had taken it, you would have eaten from it as long as the world remained. Then I saw the Fire, and I have never seen a more terrifying sight. I saw that the majority of its inhabitants were women.” They asked, “O Messenger of Allah! Why is that?” He replied, “Because of their ungratefulness.” It was asked, “Do they disbelieve in Allah?” He said, “They are ungrateful to their husbands and ungrateful for favors. Even if you treat one of them well all her life, when she sees something she dislikes, she says, ‘I have never seen any good from you.’”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5198
Narrated Imran:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “I looked at Paradise and saw that the majority of its residents were the poor, and I looked at the Fire and saw that the majority of its residents were women.”
Chapter: Your wife has a right over you
Sahih al-Bukhari 5199
Narrated Abdullah bin Amr bin Al-As:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “O Abdullah! Have I not been informed that you fast all day and pray all night?” I said, “Yes, O Messenger of Allah.” He said, “Do not do that. Observe the fast sometimes and leave it at other times; stand in prayer at night and also sleep at night. Your body has a right over you, your eyes have a right over you, and your wife has a right over you.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5200
Chapter: The woman is a guardian in her husband’s house
Narrated Ibn Umar:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “All of you are guardians and are responsible for those under your care. The ruler is a guardian and the man is a guardian of his family. The woman is a guardian and is responsible for her husband’s house and his offspring. Surely, all of you are guardians and all of you are responsible for your wards.”
Chapter: ‘Men are protectors and maintainers of women’
Sahih al-Bukhari 5201
Narrated Anas:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) took an oath that he would not visit his wives for one month and stayed in an upper room. Then, on the twenty-ninth day, he came down. It was said, “O Messenger of Allah! You had sworn not to visit them for a month.” He said, “The month is twenty-nine days.”
Chapter: The decision of the Prophet (peace be upon him) not to share the beds with his wives and to stay away
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5202
Narrated Um Salama:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) took an oath that he would not enter upon some of his wives for one month. But when twenty-nine days had elapsed, he went to them in the morning or evening. It was said to him, “O Allah’s Prophet! You had taken an oath that you would not enter upon them for one month.” He replied, “The month can be of twenty-nine days.”
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5203
Narrated Ibn `Abbas:
One morning we saw the wives of the Prophet (peace be upon him) weeping, and everyone of them had her family with her. I went to the mosque and found that it was crowded with people. Then `Umar bin Al-Khattab came and went up to the Prophet (peace be upon him) who was in his upper room. He greeted him but nobody answered. He greeted again, but nobody answered. Then the gatekeeper called him and he entered upon the Prophet, and asked, “Have you divorced your wives?” The Prophet said, “No, but I have taken an oath not to go to them for one month.” So the Prophet (peace be upon him) stayed away from his wives for twenty-nine days and then entered upon them.
Chapter: The beating of women is disapproved
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5204
Narrated Abdullah bin Zama:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “None of you should flog his wife as he flogs a slave and then have sexual intercourse with her in the last part of the day.”
Chapter: Not to obey the husband if he orders to do something sinful
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5205
Narrated `Aisha:
An Ansari woman gave her daughter in marriage and the hair of the latter started falling out. The Ansari women came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and mentioned that to him and said, “Her (my daughter’s) husband suggested that I should let her wear false hair.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “No, do not do that, for Allah sends His curses upon such ladies who lengthen their hair artificially.”
Chapter: “If a woman fears cruelty or desertion on her husband’s part…”
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5206
Narrated Aisha:
Regarding the verse: ‘If a wife fears cruelty or desertion on her husband’s part …’ (4.128). It concerns the woman whose husband does not want to keep her with him any longer, but wants to divorce her and marry some other lady. She says to him, “Keep me and do not divorce me, and then marry another woman, and you may neither spend on me nor sleep with me.” This is indicated by the statement of Allah: ‘There is no blame on them if they arrange an amicable settlement between them both, and such settlement is better.’
Chapter: The coitus interruptus
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5207
Narrated Jabir:
We used to practice coitus interruptus during the lifetime of Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him).
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5208, 5209
Narrated Jabir:
We used to practice coitus interruptus while the Qur’an was being revealed. Jabir added: We used to practice coitus interruptus during the lifetime of Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) while the Qur’an was being revealed.
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5210
Narrated Abu Sa`id Al-Khudri:
We got female captives in the war booty and we used to do coitus interruptus with them. So we asked Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) about it and he said, “Do you really do that?” repeating the question thrice, “There is no soul that is destined to exist but will come into existence till the Day of Resurrection.”
Chapter: To draw lots among the wives for a journey
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5211
Narrated al-Qasim:
Aisha said that whenever the Prophet (peace be upon him) intended to go on a journey, he drew lots among his wives to take one of them along with him. During one of his journeys the lot fell on Aisha and Hafsa. When night fell, the Prophet (peace be upon him) would ride beside Aisha and talk with her. One night Hafsa said to Aisha, "Won't you ride my camel tonight and I ride yours, so that you may see me and I see you?" Aisha said, “Yes.” So Aisha rode, and then the Prophet (peace be upon him) came towards Aisha’s camel on which Hafsa was riding. He greeted Hafsa and then proceeded beside her till they dismounted on the way. `Aisha missed him, and so, when they dismounted, she put her legs in the Idhkhir and prayed for a scorpion or a snake to bite her.
Chapter: To give up the turn with the husband to one of his other wives
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5212
Sauda bint Zam`a gave up her turn to Aisha, and so the Prophet (peace be upon him) used to give Aisha both her day and the day of Sauda.
Chapter: Marrying a virgin while already having a matron wife
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5213
The tradition of the Prophet (peace be upon him) is that if someone marries a virgin and he has already a matron wife, then he should stay with the virgin for seven days; and if someone marries a matron (and he has already a virgin wife), then he should stay with her for three days.
Chapter: Marrying a matron while already having a virgin wife
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5214
It is the Prophet’s tradition (peace be upon him) that if someone marries a virgin and he has already a matron wife, then he should stay for seven days with her (the virgin) and then by turns; and if someone marries a matron and he has already a virgin wife, then he should stay with her (the matron) for three days, and then by turns.
Chapter: Whoever had sexual intercourse with all his wives and then took one bath only
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5215
The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to pass by (have sexual relation with) all his wives in one night, and at that time he had nine wives.
Chapter: If a man goes to all his wives in one day
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5216
Whenever Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) finished his `Asr prayer, he would enter upon his wives and stay with one of them. One day he went to Hafsa and stayed with her longer than usual.
Chapter: If a man takes the permission of his wives so as to stay in the house of one of them
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5217
During his fatal ailment, Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) used to ask his wives, “Where shall I stay tomorrow? Where shall I stay tomorrow?” He was looking forward to Aisha’s turn. So all his wives allowed him to stay where he wished, and he stayed at Aisha’s house until he died there. Aisha added: He died on the day of her usual turn at her house. Allah took him unto Him while his head was between her chest and neck and his saliva was mixed with hers.
Chapter: To love some of the wives more than the others
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5218
Ibn Abbas narrated that Umar entered upon Hafsa and said, “O my daughter! Do not be misled by the manners of her who is proud of her beauty because of the love of Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) for her.” By ‘her’ he meant Aisha. `Umar added, “Then I told that to Allah’s Messenger and he smiled upon hearing that.”
Chapter: To claim having more things or better qualities than one really has
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5219
Some lady said, “O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! My husband has another wife, so is it sinful of me to claim that he has given me what he has not given me (in order to tease her)?” Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “The one who pretends that he has been given what he has not been given is just like the one who wears two garments of falsehood.”
Chapter: Al-Ghaira (i.e. honour, prestige or self-respect)
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5220
Narrated `Abdullah bin Masud:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “There is none having a greater sense of Ghira than Allah. And for that He has forbidden the doing of evil actions (illegal sexual intercourse etc.). There is none who likes to be praised more than Allah does.”
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5221
Narrated `Aisha:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “O followers of Muhammad! There is none who has a greater sense of Ghira (self-respect) than Allah, so He has forbidden that His slave commits illegal sexual intercourse or His slave girl commits illegal sexual intercourse. O followers of Muhammad! If you but knew what I know, you would laugh less and weep more!”
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5222
Narrated Asma’:
I heard Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) saying, “There is nothing (none) having a greater sense of Ghira (self-respect) than Allah.” And narrated Abu Huraira that he heard the Prophet saying the same.
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5223
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Allah has a sense of Ghira, and Allah’s sense of Ghira is provoked when a believer does something which Allah has prohibited.”
5224
Narrated Asma’ bint Abu Bakr:
When Az-Zubair married me, he had no real property or any slave or anything else except a camel which drew water from the well, and his horse. I used to feed his horse with fodder, draw water, sew the bucket for drawing it, and prepare the dough, but I did not know how to bake bread. Our Ansari neighbors used to bake bread for me, and they were honorable ladies. I used to carry the date stones on my head from Zubair’s land given to him by Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him), and this land was two-thirds Farsakh (about two miles) from my house. One day, while I was coming with the date stones on my head, I met Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) along with some Ansari people. He called me and, directing his camel to kneel down, said, “Ikh! Ikh!” so as to make me ride behind him. I felt shy to travel with the men and remembered Az-Zubair and his sense of Ghira, as he was one of those people who had the greatest sense of Ghira. Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) noticed that I felt shy, so he proceeded. I came to Az-Zubair and said, “I met Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) while I was carrying a load of date stones on my head, and he had some companions with him. He made his camel kneel down so that I might ride, but I felt shy in his presence and remembered your sense of Ghira.” On that, Az-Zubair said, “By Allah, your carrying the date stones (and you being seen by the Prophet in such a state) is more shameful to me than your riding with him.” I continued serving in this way until Abu Bakr sent me a servant to look after the horse, whereupon I felt as if he had set me free.
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5225
Narrated Anas:
While the Prophet (peace be upon him) was in the house of one of his wives, one of the mothers of the believers sent a meal in a dish. The wife at whose house the Prophet was struck the hand of the servant, causing the dish to fall and break. The Prophet gathered the broken pieces of the dish and then started collecting on them the food which had been in the dish and said, “Your mother (my wife) felt jealous.” Then he detained the servant until a sound dish was brought from the wife at whose house he was. He gave the sound dish to the wife whose dish had been broken and kept the broken one at the house where it had been broken.
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5226
Narrated Jabir:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “I entered Paradise and saw a palace and asked whose palace is this? They (the Angels) said, ‘This palace belongs to Umar bin Al-Khattab.' I intended to enter it, and nothing stopped me except my knowledge about your sense of Ghira (self-respect, O Umar).” `Umar said, “O Allah’s Messenger! Let my father and mother be sacrificed for you! O Allah’s Prophet! How dare I think of my Ghira (self-respect) being offended by you?”
Chapter: The jealousy of women and their anger
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5227
Narrated Abu Huraira:
While we were sitting with Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him), he said, “While I was sleeping, I saw a woman performing ablution beside a palace. I asked, ‘Whose palace is this?’ It was said, ‘This palace belongs to Umar.' Then I remembered his sense of Ghira and returned." On that, Umar started weeping in that gathering and said, “O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! How dare I think of my self-respect being offended by you?”
Chapter: The jealousy of women and their anger
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5228
Narrated Aisha:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said to her, “I know when you are pleased with me or angry with me.” She said, “Whence do you know that?” He said, “When you are pleased with me, you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Muhammad,’ but when you are angry with me, then you say, ‘No, by the Lord of Abraham.’ ” Thereupon she said, “Yes, but by Allah, O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him), I leave nothing but your name.”
Chapter: The jealousy of women and their anger
Sahih al-Bukhari Hadith 5229
Narrated `Aisha:
I never felt so jealous of any wife of Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) as I did of Khadija because Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) used to remember and praise her too often and because it was revealed to Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) that he should give her the glad tidings of her having a palace of Qasab in Paradise.
Chapter: Attempt to prevent the daughter’s jealousy
Sahih al-Bukhari 5230
Narrated Al-Miswar bin Makhrama:
I heard Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) who was on the pulpit, saying, “Banu Hisham bin Al-Mughira have requested me to allow them to marry their daughter to Ali bin Abu Talib, but I don’t give permission, and will not give permission unless Ali bin Abi Talib divorces my daughter in order to marry their daughter, because Fatima is a part of my body, and I hate what she hates to see, and what hurts her, hurts me.”
Chapter: Men will decrease and women will increase
Sahih al-Bukhari 5231
Narrated Anas:
I will narrate to you a Hadith I heard from Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) and none other than I will tell you of it. I heard Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) saying, “From among the portents of the Hour are the following: Religious knowledge will be taken away; General ignorance (in religious matters) will increase; illegal sexual intercourse will prevail; drinking of alcoholic drinks will prevail. Men will decrease in number, and women will increase in number, so much so that fifty women will be looked after by one man.”
Chapter: A man should not stay with a woman in seclusion
Sahih al-Bukhari 5232
Narrated Uqba bin Amir:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “Beware of entering upon the ladies.” A man from the Ansar said, “Allah’s Messenger! What about Al-Hamu, the in-laws of the wife (the brothers of her husband or his nephews etc.)?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) replied: “The in-laws of the wife are death itself.”
Chapter: A man should not stay with a woman in seclusion
Sahih al-Bukhari 5233
Narrated Ibn Abbas:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “No man should stay with a lady in seclusion except in the presence of a Dhu-Muhram.” A man stood up and said, “O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! My wife has gone out intending to perform the Hajj and I have been enrolled in such-and-such campaign.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Return and perform the Hajj with your wife.”
Chapter: Private meeting between a man and a woman not secluded from the people
Sahih al-Bukhari 5234
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
An Ansari woman came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and he took her aside and said to her, “By Allah, you (Ansar) are the most beloved people to me.”
Chapter: Effeminate men should not enter upon women
Sahih al-Bukhari 5235
Narrated Um Salama:
While the Prophet (peace be upon him) was with her, there was an effeminate man in the house. The effeminate man said to Um Salama’s brother, Abdullah bin Abi Umaiyya, “If Allah should make you conquer Ta’if tomorrow, I recommend that you take the daughter of Ghailan in marriage, for she is so fat that she shows four folds of flesh when facing you and eight when she turns her back.” Thereupon the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “This man should not enter upon you anymore.”
Chapter: The looking of a woman at the Ethiopians and the like
Sahih al-Bukhari 5236
Narrated Aisha:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was screening me with his garment while I was looking at the Ethiopians who were playing in the courtyard of the mosque. I continued watching till I was satisfied. So you may deduce from this event how a little girl who has not reached the age of puberty and who is eager to enjoy amusement should be treated in this respect.
Chapter: The going out of women for their needs
Sahih al-Bukhari 5237
Narrated Aisha:
Once Sada bint Zama went out at night for some need, and Umar saw her, and recognizing her, he said to her, “By Allah, O Sa`da! You cannot hide yourself from us.” So she returned to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and mentioned that to him while he was sitting in my dwelling taking his supper and holding a bone covered with meat in his hand. Then the Divine Inspiration was revealed to him and when that state was over, he was saying: “O women! You have been allowed by Allah to go out for your needs.”
Chapter: The permission taken by a woman from her husband to go to the mosque
Sahih al-Bukhari 5238
Narrated Salim’s father:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “If the wife of anyone of you asks permission to go to the mosque, he should not forbid her.”
Chapter: Visiting or looking at women having foster suckling relations
Sahih al-Bukhari 5239
Narrated Aisha:
My foster uncle came and asked permission to enter, but I refused to admit him till I asked Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) about that. He said, “He is your uncle, so allow him to come in.” I said, “O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! I have been suckled by a woman and not by a man.” Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “He is your uncle, so let him enter upon you.” That happened after the order of Al-Hijab was revealed. All things which become unlawful because of blood relations are unlawful because of the corresponding foster suckling relations.
Chapter: Attempt to prevent the daughter’s jealousy
Sahih al-Bukhari 5230
Narrated Al-Miswar bin Makhrama:
I heard Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) who was on the pulpit, saying, “Banu Hisham bin Al-Mughira have requested me to allow them to marry their daughter to Ali bin Abu Talib, but I don’t give permission, and will not give permission unless Ali bin Abi Talib divorces my daughter in order to marry their daughter, because Fatima is a part of my body, and I hate what she hates to see, and what hurts her, hurts me.”
Chapter: Men will decrease and women will increase
Sahih al-Bukhari 5231
Narrated Anas:
I will narrate to you a Hadith I heard from Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) and none other than I will tell you of it. I heard Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) saying, “From among the portents of the Hour are the following: Religious knowledge will be taken away; general ignorance (in religious matters) will increase; illegal sexual intercourse will prevail; drinking of alcoholic drinks will prevail. Men will decrease in number, and women will increase in number, so much so that fifty women will be looked after by one man.”
Chapter: A man should not stay with a woman in seclusion
Sahih al-Bukhari 5232
Narrated Uqba bin ‘Amir:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “Beware of entering upon the ladies.” A man from the Ansar said, “Allah’s Apostle! What about Al-Hamu, the in-laws of the wife (the brothers of her husband or his nephews etc.)?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) replied: “The in-laws of the wife are death itself.”
Chapter: A man should not stay with a woman in seclusion
Sahih al-Bukhari 5233
Narrated Ibn Abbas:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “No man should stay with a lady in seclusion except in the presence of a Dhu-Muhram.” A man stood up and said, “O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! My wife has gone out intending to perform the Hajj and I have been enrolled (in the army) for such-and-such campaign.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Return and perform the Hajj with your wife.”
Chapter: Private meeting between a man and a woman not secluded from the people
Sahih al-Bukhari 5234
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
An Ansari woman came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and he took her aside and said to her, “By Allah, you (Ansar) are the most beloved people to me.”
Chapter: Effeminate men should not enter upon women
Sahih al-Bukhari 5235
Narrated Um Salama:
While the Prophet (peace be upon him) was with her, there was an effeminate man in the house. The effeminate man said to Um Salama’s brother, Abdullah bin Abi Umaiyya, “If Allah should make you conquer Ta’if tomorrow, I recommend that you take the daughter of Ghailan in marriage, for she is so fat that she shows four folds of flesh when facing you and eight when she turns her back.” Thereupon the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “This effeminate man should not enter upon you anymore.”
Chapter: The looking of a woman at the Ethiopians and the like
Sahih al-Bukhari 5236
Narrated Aisha:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) was screening me with his Rida’ (garment covering the upper part of the body) while I was looking at the Ethiopians who were playing in the courtyard of the mosque. I continued watching till I was satisfied. So you may deduce from this event how a little girl (who has not reached the age of puberty) who is eager to enjoy amusement should be treated in this respect.
Chapter: The going out of women for their needs
Sahih al-Bukhari 5237
Narrated Aisha:
Once Sada bint Zama went out at night for some need, and Umar saw her, and recognizing her, he said to her, “By Allah, O Sa`da! You cannot hide yourself from us.” So she returned to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and mentioned that to him while he was sitting in my dwelling taking his supper and holding a bone covered with meat in his hand. Then the Divine Inspiration was revealed to him and when that state was over, he was saying: “O women! You have been allowed by Allah to go out for your needs.”
Chapter: The permission taken by a woman from her husband to go to the mosque
Sahih al-Bukhari 5238
Narrated Salim’s father:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “If the wife of anyone of you asks permission to go to the mosque, he should not forbid her.”
Chapter: Visiting or looking at women having foster suckling relations
Sahih al-Bukhari 5239
Narrated Aisha:
My foster uncle came and asked permission to enter, but I refused to admit him till I asked Allah’s Apostle (peace be upon him) about that. He said, “He is your uncle, so allow him to come in.” I said, “O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! I have been suckled by a woman and not by a man.” Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “He is your uncle, so let him enter upon you.” That happened after the order of Al-Hijab (compulsory veiling) was revealed. All things which become unlawful because of blood relations are unlawful because of the corresponding foster suckling relations.
Chapter: A woman should not look at or touch the body of another woman to describe to her husband
Sahih al-Bukhari 5240
Narrated Abdullah bin Mas`ud:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A woman should not look at or touch another woman to describe her to her husband in such a way as if he was actually looking at her.”
Chapter: A woman should not look at or touch the body of another woman to describe to her husband
Sahih al-Bukhari 5241
Narrated Abdullah:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A woman should not look at or touch another woman to describe her to her husband in such a way as if he was actually looking at her.”
Chapter: “I will go round all my wives tonight.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5242
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet Solomon son of the Prophet David said, “Tonight I will go round one hundred women (my wives) every one of whom will deliver a male child who will fight in Allah’s Cause.” On that an Angel said to him, “Say: ‘If Allah will’.” But Solomon did not say it and forgot to say it. Then he had sexual relations with them but none of them delivered any child except one who delivered a half person. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “If Solomon had said: ‘If Allah will,’ Allah would have fulfilled his desire and that saying would have made him more hopeful.”
Chapter: If a man is away for a long time, he should not enter his house at night
Sahih al-Bukhari 5243
Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) disliked that one should go to one’s family at night (on returning from a journey).
Chapter: If a man is away for a long time, he should not enter his house at night
Sahih al-Bukhari 5244
Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “When anyone of you is away from his house for a long time, he should not return to his family at night.”
Chapter: Seeking to beget children
Sahih al-Bukhari 5245
Narrated Jabir:
I was with Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) in a Ghazwa, and when we returned, I wanted to hurry while riding a slow camel. A rider came behind me. I looked back and saw that the rider was Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him). He said to me, “What makes you in such a hurry?” I replied, “I am newly married.” He said, “Did you marry a virgin or a matron?” I replied, “A matron.” He said, “Why didn’t you marry a young girl with whom you could play and who could play with you?” Then when we approached Medina and were going to enter it, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Wait till you enter your homes at night so that the ladies with unkempt hair may comb their hair, and those whose husbands have been absent may shave their pubic hair.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) added: “Seek to have children, seek to have children, O Jabir!”
Chapter: Seeking to beget children
Sahih al-Bukhari 5246
Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “If you enter your town at night (after coming from a journey), do not enter upon your family till the woman whose husband was absent shaves her pubic hair and the woman with unkempt hair combs her hair.” Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) further said, “O Jabir! Seek to have offspring, seek to have offspring!”
Chapter: The woman should shave her pubic hair, and should comb the hair
Sahih al-Bukhari 5247
Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah:
We were with the Prophet (peace be upon him) in a Ghazwa, and when we returned and approached Medina, I wanted to hurry while riding a slow camel. A rider overtook me and pricked my camel with a spear which he had, whereupon my camel started running fast. I looked back, and behold, the rider was Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him). I said, “O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! I am newly married.” He asked, “Have you got married?” I replied, “Yes.” He said, “A virgin or a matron?” I replied, “A matron.” He said, “Why didn’t you marry a young girl so that you could play with her and she with you?” When we reached Medina and were going to enter it, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Wait till you enter your home early in the night so that the lady whose hair is unkempt may comb her hair and that the lady whose husband has been away may shave her pubic hair.”
Chapter: “And not to reveal their adornments except to their husbands…”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5248
Narrated Abu Hazim:
The people differed about the type of treatment which had been given to Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) on the day of the battle of Uhud. So they asked Sahl bin Sa’d As-Sa’idi who was the only surviving Companion at Medina. He replied, “Nobody is left at Medina who knows it better than I. Fatima was washing the blood off his face and Ali was bringing water in his shield, and then a mat of date-palm leaves was burnt and the ash was inserted into the wound.”
Chapter: “And those among you who have not come to the age of puberty.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5249
Narrated Abdur-Rahman bin Abis:
I heard Ibn Abbas answering a man who asked him, “Did you attend the prayer of Eid al-Adha or Eid al-Fitr with Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)?” Ibn Abbas replied, “Yes, and had it not been for my close relationship with him, I could not have offered it.” Ibn Abbas further said, “Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) went out and offered the Eid prayer and then delivered the sermon.” Ibn Abbas did not mention anything about the Adhan or the Iqama. He added, “Then the Prophet (peace be upon him) went to the women and instructed them and ordered them to give alms, and I saw them taking off their earrings and necklaces and throwing them towards Bilal. Then the Prophet (peace be upon him) returned with Bilal to his house.”
Chapter: The man’s poking his daughter in the flank while admonishing her
Sahih al-Bukhari 5250
Narrated Aisha:
Abu Bakr admonished me and poked me with his hands in the flank, and nothing stopped me from moving at that time except the position of Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) whose head was on my thigh.
