Volume 8- Book 78, Good Manners and Form (Al-Adab) ——–5970-6226
Chapter: Al-Birr and As-Sila (Being dutiful and kind to parents)
Sahih al-Bukhari 5970
Narrated Al-Walid bin ‘Aizar:
I heard Abi `Amr Ash-Shaibani saying, “The owner of this house”—he pointed to Abdullah’s house—said, “I asked the Prophet (peace be upon him), ‘Which deed is loved most by Allah?'” He replied, “To offer prayers at their early (very first) stated times.” Abdullah asked, “What is the next (in goodness)?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “To be good and dutiful to one’s parents.” Abdullah asked, “What is the next (in goodness)?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “To participate in Jihad for Allah’s cause.” Abdullah added, “The Prophet (peace be upon him) narrated to me these three things, and if I had asked more, he would have told me more.”
Chapter: Who is more entitled to the best companionship?
Sahih al-Bukhari 5971
Narrated Abu Huraira:
A man came to Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) and said, “O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best companionship by me?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Your mother.” The man said, “Who is next?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man further said, “Who is next?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Your mother.” The man asked for the fourth time, “Who is next?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Your father.”
Chapter: One should not go for Jihad without the permission of the parents
Sahih al-Bukhari 5972
Narrated Abdullah bin Amr:
A man said to the Prophet (peace be upon him), “Shall I participate in Jihad?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Are your parents living?” The man said, “Yes.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Do Jihad for their benefit.”
Chapter: A man should not abuse his parents
Sahih al-Bukhari 5973
Narrated Abdullah bin Amr:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “It is one of the greatest sins that a man should curse his parents.” It was asked (by the people), “O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! How does a man curse his parents?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “The man abuses the father of another man, and the latter abuses the father of the former and abuses his mother.”
Chapter: The invocation of the person who is dutiful to his parents is fulfilled
Sahih al-Bukhari 5974
Narrated Ibn Umar:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “While three persons were traveling, they were overtaken by rain and they took shelter in a cave in a mountain. A big rock fell from the mountain over the mouth of the cave and blocked it. They said to each other, ‘Think of such good (righteous) deeds which you did for Allah’s sake only, and invoke Allah by giving reference to those deeds so that Allah may relieve you from your difficulty.’
One of them said, ‘O Allah! I had my parents who were very old, and I had small children for whose sake I used to work as a shepherd. When I returned to them at night and milked (the sheep), I used to start giving the milk to my parents first before giving to my children. And one day I went far away in search of a grazing place (for my sheep), and didn’t return home till late at night and found that my parents had slept. I milked (my livestock) as usual and brought the milk vessel and stood at their heads. I disliked to wake them up from their sleep, and I also disliked to give the milk to my children before my parents though my children were crying (from hunger) at my feet. So this state of mine and theirs continued till the day dawned. O Allah! If you considered that I had done that only for seeking Your pleasure, then please let there be an opening through which we can see the sky.’ So Allah made for them an opening through which they could see the sky.
Then the second person said, ‘O Allah! I had a she-cousin whom I loved as much as a passionate man loves a woman. I tried to seduce her but she refused until I paid her one hundred dinars. So I worked hard till I collected one hundred dinars and went to her with that. But when I sat between her legs (to have sexual intercourse with her), she said, “O Allah’s slave! Be afraid of Allah! Do not deflower me except legally (by marriage contract).” So I left her. O Allah! If you considered that I had done that only for seeking Your pleasure, then please let the rock move a little to have a wider opening.’ So Allah shifted that rock to make the opening wider for them.
And the last (third) person said, ‘O Allah! I employed a laborer for wages equal to a faraq (a certain measure) of rice, and when he had finished his job he demanded his wages, but when I presented his due to him, he gave it up and refused to take it. Then I kept on sowing that rice for him (several times) till I managed to buy with the price of the yield some cows and their shepherd. Later on, the laborer came to me and said, “O Allah’s slave! Be afraid of Allah, and do not be unjust to me, and give me my due.” I said to him, “Go and take those cows and their shepherd.” So he took them and went away. O Allah! If You considered that I had done that for seeking Your pleasure, then please remove the remaining part of the rock.’ And so Allah released them (from their difficulty).”
Chapter: To be undutiful to parents is one of the greatest sins
Sahih al-Bukhari 5975
Narrated Al-Mughira:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Allah has forbidden you (1) to be undutiful to your mothers, (2) to withhold (what you should give), or (3) demand (what you do not deserve), and (4) to bury your daughters alive. And Allah has disliked that (A) you talk too much about others, (B) ask too many questions (in religion), or (C) waste your property.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5976
Narrated Abu Bakra:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said thrice, “Shall I not inform you of the biggest of the great sins?” We said, “Yes, O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him).” He said, “To join partners in worship with Allah; to be undutiful to one’s parents.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) sat up after he had been reclining and added, “And I warn you against giving a forged statement and a false witness; I warn you against giving a forged statement and a false witness.” The Prophet kept on saying that warning till we thought that he would not stop.
Sahih al-Bukhari 5977
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) mentioned the greatest sins or he was asked about the greatest sins. He said, “To join partners in worship with Allah; to kill a soul which Allah has forbidden to kill; and to be undutiful or unkind to one’s parents.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) added, “Shall I inform you of the biggest of the great sins? That is the forged statement or the false witness.” Shu`ba (the sub-narrator) states that most probably the Prophet said, “the false witness.”
Chapter: To be good to a father who is a Mushrik
Sahih al-Bukhari 5978
Narrated Asma’ bint Abu Bakr:
My mother came to me, hoping for my favor, during the lifetime of the Prophet (peace be upon him). I asked the Prophet (peace be upon him), “May I treat her kindly?” He replied, “Yes.” Then Allah revealed: “Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fought not against you because of religion and drove you not out from your homes, that you should show them kindness and deal justly with them.”
Chapter: Kindness by a lady who has a husband, to her mother
Sahih al-Bukhari 5979
Narrated Asma’:
My mother, who was a Mushrikah (pagan), came with her father during the peace pact between the Muslims and the Quraysh. I went to seek the advice of the Prophet (peace be upon him) saying, “My mother has arrived and she is hoping for my favor.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Yes, be good to your mother.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5980
Narrated Abu Sufyan:
Heraclius sent for me and asked, “What did he, the Prophet (peace be upon him), order you to do?” I replied, “He orders us to offer prayers, to give alms, to be chaste, and to keep good relations with our relatives.”
Chapter: To be good to one’s brother who is a Mushrik
Sahih al-Bukhari 5981
Narrated Ibn ‘Umar:
My father saw a silken cloak being sold and said, “O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! Buy this and wear it on Fridays and when foreign delegates visit you.” He said, “This is worn only by one who will have no share in the Hereafter.” Later, a few silken cloaks were gifted to the Prophet (peace be upon him), and he sent one to ‘Umar. ‘Umar said, “How can I wear it when you have said about it what you said?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) replied, “I did not give it to you to wear, but to sell or to give to someone else to wear.” So ‘Umar sent it to his brother, who was a pagan living in Mecca before he embraced Islam.
Chapter: Superiority of good relations with relatives
Sahih al-Bukhari 5982
Narrated Abu Ayyub Al-Ansari:
A man said, “O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! Inform me of a deed which will make me enter Paradise.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “You should worship Allah and join none in worship with Him, offer prayers perfectly, give obligatory charity (Zakat), and keep good relations with your kith and kin.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5983
Narrated Abu Ayyub Al-Ansari:
A man said, “O Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him)! Tell me of a deed which will make me enter Paradise.” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him, perform the prayers, give zakat, and maintain the ties of kinship.”
Chapter: The sin of Al-Qati’ (the one who severs kinship ties)
Sahih al-Bukhari 5984
Narrated Jubair bin Mut‘im:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “The person who severs the bond of kinship will not enter Paradise.”
Chapter: Whoever was made wealthy because of keeping good relations with his kith and kin
Sahih al-Bukhari 5985
Narrated Abu Huraira:
I heard Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) say, “Whoever is pleased that he be granted more wealth and that his life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations with his kith and kin.”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5986
Narrated Anas bin Malik:
Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and a longer life, then he should keep good relations with his kith and kin.”
Chapter: Allah will keep good relations with him who keeps good relations with kith and kin
Sahih al-Bukhari 5987
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Allah created the creations, and when He finished His creation, the womb said, ‘O Allah, at this place I seek refuge with You from those who sever me.’ Allah said, ‘Won’t you be pleased that I will keep good relations with the one who keeps good relations with you, and sever the relation with the one who severs you?’ It said, ‘Yes, O my Lord.’ Allah said, ‘Then that is for you.’”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5988
Narrated Abu Huraira:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “The word ‘Ar-Rahm’ (womb) derives from ‘Ar-Rahman’ (the Most Merciful). Allah said: ‘I will keep good relations with the one who keeps good relations with you, and sever relations with the one who severs you.’”
Sahih al-Bukhari 5989
Narrated Aisha:
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “The word ‘Ar-Rahm’ (womb) derives its name from ‘Ar-Rahman’ (the Most Merciful). Whoever keeps good relations with it, Allah will keep good relations with him; and whoever severs it, Allah will sever relations with him.”